Is there really ‘The One’?
"Is there two?"
There’s a lot more then two. Thank god, because we would be in a lot of trouble if there was only one. Let me give you some logic, if a woman met 3 guys a day for the next 50 years it would be around 55,000 guys right? Now that’s a lot of guys. if we take the population of the world to be 7 billion and say okay half of those are women so we have 3.5 billion left and out of those we have many men who are too young or to old then we are left with about 1 billion guys. if you met 3 guys for the next 50 years, if you met 55,000 guys as a percentage of one billion that’s 0.005% chance of meeting the one. Now how many women do you know that are meeting 3 guys a day for 50 years? There not! Is it the case that 0.005% of your friends are in relationships? No of course not-
"What is the harm in looking for the one?"
Thee harm in looking for the one is A.) you will never find it. it’s like looking for the perfect job and you will never find it and you are continuously blaming the problems of the relationship on the fact that they are not the one in a very childish manner. It also goes the other way. What do you do if the one starts cheating on you. What do you do if the one starts treating you badly? Are they still the one? Do you say I’m going to stay with them anyway because there the one? What could be more of a prison then that idea?! That I met the one and no matter how they treat me I cant lose them because there is no one else. What about those people out there that use there partner, at what point do you say I can meet someone again if your partner is ‘the one’?
"There is nothing perfect right, everyone is looking for the perfect relationship. You’re never going to find the perfect relationship"
Think about this 40% 0f the worlds population is in India, or China. Why aren’t more of us married to India or Chinese people in the states. Think about that for a moment. If the one exists why aren’t more of us married to these people if they are 40% of the population? I always think when Mary who met her guy at college you know, and she’s sitting next to me, I think your the luckiest person on earth because ‘the one’ was in the same town, same class, same age.. Amazing!